Why changing the official date of Halloween is senseless and selfish

There is a petition at Change.org with 100,000 signatures to change the date of Halloween to the last Saturday of October instead of it's current traditional date. I've done some digging and looking and more looking and the more I do that, the more I come to this conclusion. It's senseless and caters to a minority of people who want the holiday to be convenient just for them. Now I have several reasons for my position on this and I am going point out not only why this should fail, but must.  First let's take a look at the arguments in favor.

"It will be safer": The petition claims that having the holiday only on Saturday will make the holiday safer but that's certainly not true nor supported by any form of statistics.  The very first claim on their list is that there are 3800 injuries related to Halloween each year. Well, since Halloween does land on a Saturday every seven years (yep, every seven years as it cycles through the weekdays) there is no evidence that the day of the week makes any difference in those injuries. But then there's THIS. That's right, a study that says Saturday is actually the second most dangerous day of the week overall. So good luck.  But it get's worse.

"People don't follow safety rules": The next four points they make on their list is about how people don't follow safety guidelines like carrying flashlights, having reflective material or being in a group or with parents. I don't know about you, but it seems to me there is no magic in any day of the week that will make people suddenly conform to safety guidelines they've been ignoring for years anyway. The day of the week has nothing to do with  this.

"It will make millenials happier": I'm sorry but what? Go look at the link highlighted above. It literally suggests that we should change the date to make one generation of people happy about it. But how many millenials were even asked? Were there any studies to this? 

Some comments suggest that people have to work so it's inconvenient to them and they prefer Saturday so they have a day off. Well that's pretty selfish. Currently 29% of Americans work the weekends. Just google it. That's nearly a third of the country and a helluva lot more than 100,000 people.  Now that's just one reason this needs to fail, it doesn't take that near third of the nation into consideration or give them any voice in the matter.

The number one reason this needs to fail is that it's a slap in the face to freedom of religion. See THIS. That's right, it's a religious holiday to well over another 100,000 people. Wicca for example is accepted as a religion in the United States and given rights in freedom of religion. Currently that accounts for 1.5 million people. So you want to spit in the face of 1.5 million people? Okay. Good luck with that.

And then what's next? What are we really changing? What holiday do we cater next? If 100,000 athiests sign a petition to eliminate Christmas, will that be okay? Or maybe we put it on only the last Saturday of each month to make corporations happier? I bet it would. What about the 4th of July? How about Thanksgiving? That's always on a Thursday. Doesn't that make it inconvenient for someone?

Now here's the counter suggestion. If you want something different in your community, talk to your community. Arrange your own safe Halloween event. Plenty of places already do their Halloween on a specific date without stomping on people's religion or traditional practices. Stop trying to shove what you want down everyone else's throats.

Anti-vaxxer owes me a hundred bucks (or why you should watch our mouth on the internet)

Feeling full of yourself? Have some delusions on how right you are? Here's an idea, offer up a 100 dollars for someone to prove you wrong. That's what Ailan Hong of Long Beach, California decided to do on the page of politician Dr. Pan regarding vaccines. Let's line this up.

First of all, what he was on about. In a method of attacking Dr. Pan he accused Pan of lying about reports of Dr. Robert Sears being disciplined by the California Medical board. That would be THIS case (click on link). He posts a letter from Dr. Sears claiming that there is no discipline against him like this:

Then he posts to me that if I can prove there is disciplinary action he'll give me 100 bucks like so:

Well, I certainly pulled that off via the link above and another .gov link leading to THIS. There is even a witness to my success who I block out for her own security.

I know, you'll point out I said I didn't need his money, but that doesn't mean he doesn't owe it. Currently he's dancing around the subject and cherry picking flimsy rebuttals as anti-vaxxers are known to do. I know I'm very unlikely to get paid here, but I'm not letting it go simply because Ailan deserves to be held to task. And I'm not the only person who thinks so via another witness as follows.

Point out what... you mean like this?:

So, Ailan Hong owes me 100 dollars because I proved exactly what he asked me to prove, that Dr. Sears was accused of the exact wrong doing claimed in the exact manner requested. An Anti-vaxxer owes me 100 dollars and he's not upstanding enough to his own word to pay it. Typical anti-vaxxer.

Anti Vaxxer who runs a massage business, fat shames and diagnoses me online because she's calling shots

It's no secret that I'm not nice to anti-vaxxers. Especially one who is on the page of Dr. Richard Pan (politician doing what he can for vaccines) calling people EVIL in all caps. Hit the link and check out the page and comments. There is a constant war for representation of information about vaccines. Anti-vaxxers push the mark. One even went after a woman's children in her profile pic but that's a different story. So let's get started with my assessment of how this woman represents her business. First:

Click for closer view. Toni owns Tranquil Touch Therapeutic Massage and Esthetics. It's listed on her personal page an there is a Facebook page for it HERE. The gif you see is of a man gagging. If you go into Facebook gifs and type in the word 'gagging' it was the first that came up. Now to explain the discussion it went like this. She posted some anti vaccine information that was blatantly untrue and inaccurate. I posted that it was no more accurate than calling her a pro disease psychopath. The image is her response.

Now fat shaming is wrong. Fat shaming by a business that claims to help people is unacceptable. I contacted her via her business page and offered to write a review. I wanted a public apology both to teach her a lesson for her online behavior in fat shaming and diagnosing online without credentials AND spreading anti vaccine misinformation. But she is the only one who brought up  her vaccine position as a defense for her actions. My problem here is soley that she pulled fat shaming. Anti vaccine crap is just where it came from.

Her apology:

Frankly, not only is it a non apology but downright confusing. At first I thought she was trying to defend diagnosing me via a time she couldn't walk or use her arms. Then I figured out she was defending her vaccine position again. Bypassing her behavior altogether. Then she proceeded to tell me my medical history in which she is 100% incorrect. She still doesn't get that she has no place putting her nose in my medical history. What is she using, a crystal ball? It's broken.

I have to wonder at people who come to her for help with their problems and are also over weight. Does she consider them a disease too? She is not a medical doctor, nor does she have an MD in anything at all. But if you are going to run a business that claims to care for the health of others, especially the way her page presents, you better treat people with the decency you expect. That goes moreso than for the average people you talk to on the internet. She presents with a built in responsibility that she failed. And I always call that out. 

Like her doing the snipe and block on my page. She quotes me, supporting my above explanation and the blocks me. Very professional.

So I have to say that if I were near her business (and my sister works in a massage parlor business and was licensed in the state of Colorado) I would not go to her. I would not like the idea that she fat shames people she doesn't like. That doesn't deserve my money and I feel bad for anyone with the slightest weight problem who sees her. OH, and my sisters kids all have their shots.

As for vaccines. It's a serious problem with national outbreaks heading for 1000 cases fast. That's the threshold by statistics where you can expect someone to die. You can also expect permanent damage to some such as hearing and vision loss or encephalitis. Natural measles can erase the immune systems defenses. And for anyone who says vaccines caused the outbreaks (and they do) I point out that since 2006, 3 billion MMR vaccines have been administered in the US. If it went like anti-vaxxers believe, there would be more than 1000 cases per year, closer to multi millions of cases, but as you know, that's not true.

So if you are in Doylestown, PA and considering seeing a massage therapist, I wouldn't advise going there. 

A Letter to my Daughter's Stalker

Dear Melissa Ely, (I'm not hiding her name because of her very public posts and brash public attempts).

This purpose of this message is to give you critical information that you have refused to accept so far. That information includes the summary denial of any involvement by any person of the family of Wilde or Moxham in the disappearance of your dog, Maggie. You continue to claim that no one has denied involvement yet hung up the phone on every attempt to deliver said requested information. Now you have it. Involvement of Dyani Wilde or any other person in the disappearance of Maggie is fully denied.

A copy of this response to your claims will be retained for my records to present to court as well as posted publicly online. You have already set the precedent for this by continuing to post libelous slurs against my daughter, Dyani on your page for public consumption. As I am an online journalist I can more than follow suit and return the favor with screen shots of all your comments and photo evidence.

Maggie the dog was never rehomed. The post you keep circulating had a date on it that is now suspiciously concealed. It is from a time when your son Sam was part of an agreed effort to find Maggie a new home because he could not care for her. In fact, he simple would not care for her, leaving her to the rest of his roommates. He changed his mind on said endeavor and it was cancelled. So I repeat, Maggie was never rehomed. I have been informed that he has also been abusive to Maggie, once breaking a broomstick over her back. This is where I could quote you saying that you “hold your children to a higher standard” but we’ll get to that soon enough. I will inform you however, that the post you now conceal the date on will not last as evidence in a court of law without proof of said date and proof that the dog was rehomed specifically on said date. If you can pull off a magic trick like that, I’m sure the judge will be more than impressed. Unfortunately, as I understand, the date of Maggie’s disappearance is far from the date of the post and I repeat, as soon as Sam said he didn’t want to rehome her, the plan was cancelled. She was never rehomed. Maggie got loose and ran off as dogs often do. You would likely have better luck putting in a lost dog report with Animal Control and the Humane Society as well as making regular visits to the Humane Society. While you are wasting time stalking people who did nothing, time could be ticking away for your dog at the “pound” where she is only going to be held for a limited time before they decide what to do with her. The choice is yours.

You claim that the “authorities have been notified”. That is a true claim, but not the way you present it. I had a decent discussion with the police myself. They informed me that they find no fault in Dyani in any way. If they did, action would have been taken a long time ago. I know the officer had to threaten you with a trip to jail if he was called back out to that address regarding you in any way before the end of his shift at 4 am. But your misrepresentation doesn’t end there. You claim to have called Animal Control and wield that claim like we should all be quaking in our boots over it. No. I worked for Lincoln Animal Control as an officer for over 6 years. I know for a solid fact there is no city ordinance that they have to follow (without evidence) that will result in them taking any action except to register that you made a complaint and that your dog is missing. That’s it, that’s all. No tickets will be issued. No arrests will be made. So like any other authorities you are harassing, they will not be your personal revenge weapon.

You deny that you are stalking my daughter, however you miss the facts that have been gathered and notated. Let’s recap some shall we:

-multiple documented phone calls to law enforcement with frivolous and unproven complaints or to use law enforcement as a weapon (illegal and stalking behavior)

-phone calls to relatives no matter where they live with demands and expectations = stalking behavior that you even admit to in multiple posts on your page. You even claim boldly for all to see that you are going to call ever number Dyani has called since months back. That is stalking. That is all stalking. No matter how you want to color it.

-your call to CPS with intent to do damage because you aren’t getting your way. It’s pretty interesting that you did that when it threatens to get your son cited for sanitation at the same time. Have you seen his room? I have. I have photos too. Photos of piled garbage, molding food, and cat feces (but I understand you hold your children to a higher standard). Naturally, your son is doing nothing to clean up his part of the mess, right? Your call of CPS can be subpoenaed along with all your other calls to prove the activity.

-being seen driving around the block where Dyani lives over and over again until 2am? We may not be able to prove this, but it will be claimed anyway. Hey, you can make crazier claims than that and expect them to be taken seriously. But yes, that is stalking.

-repeated public slurs and calling for “making her famous” on your page as public shaming is stalking. All screen captured. All of those slurs will be presented to a court of law should you wish to go to one. Then you can explain to the judge your supposed evidence that Dyani or anyone else in her house are capable of or “enjoy” killing animals as you stated. Be prepared to prove and show evidence for every single crazed claim you have made against or about my daughter.

-having your son call the landlord in an effort to get Dyani evicted.

Her son's room according to the roommates

I understand you plan to sue my daughter. When you do, we will counter sue you under grounds of all of your posts, calls, and actions. We will present all photos and your posts to the judge for consideration. OR, you could go the right way about looking for Maggie as I suggest above. If she is at the shelter and you don’t look for her, well, the clock is ticking.

I do understand you think you’re pretty cute for getting Dyani’s call history so you can harass random people, like my other daughter, Lexi, or Dyani’s mother. You and yours laughed at me because you don’t think I can do anything. Well, maybe if I were to act just like you and do what you do, only better. It would be unfortunate for someone with investigative skills like mine to do that, wouldn’t it?

I guess I could contact Mr. Martinez and ask him to control you as your boyfriend, right? Or maybe I could call Kathleen H. Mark H. Sam Sr, Audra M., or Barbara E. and ask them to control you before I became “your worst nightmare”? But then I wouldn’t stoop to your level so I won’t contact any of them.

I don’t have a call log, but I could write letters to all the addresses you’ve ever lived at and ask them about you, just like random phone calls. You know, like 2909 N 52 st, 3158 N Cotner, or 1030 N 48^th? Or maybe the addresses in Crete or Alvo? Nah. I won’t do that.

I could use others as a weapon like you by contacting the school dean with all your postings and your son’s postings. I wonder if that would affect his pursuits in psychology? But no. I wouldn’t do that either.

So now comes the part where I tell you to cease and desist all actions against my daughter. She didn’t do anything to your dog and there is absolutely no significant evidence that she did. For that matter, you may want to talk to your son about what is really happening, because everyone else knows what he’s been up to, but you. Dyani’s life is non of your damn business. So you back off, and I will back off. Otherwise, go ahead and try to file in court so we can counter sue you. That serves us just fine. And I will continue to investigate you.

As a special note, I will not post this to public until you have had a chance to read it and respond. If you do not respond and agree to back off and go look for your dog the right way, I will post publicly and play the same game you do. Your choice. (and here is the proof that she read all of this)

Post from her page

So, reader, what do you think? Does how you raise your kids affect how they might wind up with a stalker one day? Can you reason with crazy? Is she crazy or just unreasonable? I can tell you I don't care if she scares. She has even admitted to being a window peeper. OH and should I make an online folder of all these posts of hers? Do you want to read them? (Maybe after they are shown in court).

"You should park where you belong" says local business owner to disabled man.

I partook of time with friends at a business in Key West Plaza, West Monroe. I'm not naming that business because this event had nothing to do with where I took my business, rather where I parked. But Key West Tan gets mentioned because this occurred via the owner of that business. I don't know what this man's name was, but I'm sure others through out the business area do. Here is what happened.

The man came to find me, asking about the car I parked as seen in the image. I thought something had happened to it so I found the man asking about me, and brought his attention to myself. He confided that he wished for me to move my vehicle from the space in front of his store for the sake of his patrons.

This is where I point out that the rain poured in buckets outside. Furthermore there were and are no signs or any form of assigned parking (save for disabled) in the entire plaza shopping center. On the side of the business (Key West Tan) are four parking spaces directly attached to his business. There is no way in any portion of the parking lot that you can avoid being rained on, by parking there. I am disabled, walk with a cane (most of the time) due to complications with my disability, Multiple Sclerosis. However, my parking placard is expired. So all I could do was move the car out to the middle of the parking lot to get the most rain exposure possible. These are all important factors to this story.

Initially, though quite disturbed at the idea that this man was willing to go business to business to hunt me down for where I parked, I did move the car. But then I noticed that there was no sign indicating he could ask that of me and I changed my mind. I had quite a few things I would need help getting to my car as it were, never mind travelling a wet slick parking lot with a four pod cane. I had every bit as much right to park right where I did and he had no legal recourse to ask me to move. So I put the car right back in the same space and went back about my business trying to enjoy the day with friends.

Mr. Tan Owner came back to make a point and I didn't let him.

"Before you say a word," I said. "tow me." Yeah, it wasn't a nice thing to say, but his treatment of me was about to get worse, so I don't feel so bad about it.

The man went out to his truck, got his phone, and as far as I could tell... called the police. Since there was a possibility of police, I got out my phone, took my cane because the stress was weakening my legs by this point, and went out to take the photo you see above.

"He's parked right in front of my business..." I heard him say on the phone. No police ever came. I didn't think they actually would.

After a few minutes he came back over to talk to the owner of the business I was at. I interceded. Why? Because no one in that whole complex had any legal power to tell me to move that car anywhere. It was me he needed to talk to.

"So just because you don't want to park where you belong..." the man said to me, gesturing to the disability accessible spaces.

"My placard is expired, Sir, I can't do that." I explained to him.

"That's semantics."

"No, it's the law." I will not make myself the worlds biggest hypocrite by parking illegally where I tell others not to park illegally. I even pointed that out to him, but there was no reaching him. I had to walk away.

"You know, it's just a matter of common courtesy." He said to me. I couldn't help but think I was the guy who needed a cane in the equation and it just didn't add up. Common courtesy for who?

So to sum up, he went out of his way to track me down, expected me to move for his patrons when he had no legal recourse to do so, and summed up with how I need to be where I belong, even if I break the law doing it... because it's just common courtesy.

Am I really out of bounds for wanting a public apology? I don't think so. Who is he going to do this too next? Would he still have hunted me down if I was a little old lady? And just to be clear, telling a disabled person they 'belong' in any space is highly discriminatory.

UPDATE: The owner has reached out to me via a third party (I will not mention names out of kindness because of this) to apologize to me. I will accept his apology, however I expect him to meet me in  person to follow this up. He has stated that in afterthought he was far out of bounds and the landlord has made it clear that no parking spaces may be claimed exclusive for any of the businesses in the plaza. I applaud his quick response, less than 10 hours from posting of this article.

UPDATE 2:  Through the third party mentioned above and a couple of other sources, it was made clear to me that our business owner (I know know him as Mr. Steven Kelley) intended to meet me at the shop I frequent to offer me requested apology. It's all I expect. Apologize to me and shake my hand. After that I would have altered this article so that it gave no names to include business. I was there for a whole 6 hours. HE NEVER SHOWED UP.  Clearly this isn't going to happen. So now this article can stay exactly as is. And sadly, that may not entirely be the end of it. There are people who care about me who are not happy with what happened. Word is spreading.